Story #34: Where To Find Good People (The Anonymous Anecdotes Project)

Hey. I am not a priest, not a soul guide, not a spiritual guru, nor do I have any special power. I am just another human with a standard issue brain and heart. Although I am not so sure why they blame it on the innocent little organ which essentially only pumps blood in our body. But it’s okay, I guess it must be used to it by now. Hopefully. But remember, it’s an opinion. So, don’t buy it like you buy stuff from a super market, think about it and if you find any loopholes, be sure to contact the lovely author of this initiative who will further re-direct your opinion to me. Trust me, I’ll need it. 

Goodness is something which makes sense, because honestly we see enough bad to adequately differentiate it from the good. There is no degree of goodness, there is just goodness. It is not a methodical process which requires learning, maturity or even education. It is something which is inherent in us, engineered in our brain somehow. But unfortunately, a number of people are swayed away from it at a very early stage. It may be the upbringing, the nightmarish childhood or a traumatic incident. Whatever it is, it steals their ability to act good to others, it is as sad as it sounds. I am not trying to justify the wrongdoers of the world, just saying that they have become this way, reversibly or irreversibly. 

We often use our standard human categorisation policies to put our acquaintances into one of the two boxes called – ‘good’ or ‘bad’. But trust me it is not that easy. Goodness or badness is hardly apparent, often camouflaged by moods, environment, notions and experiences. So it would be easier to let down the judgemental walls down that we build around ourselves and let some goodness flow into our lives. 
Now where the hell is this goodness? 
It’s right there. 

We all see it, when a waiter is extra polite to us. We feel it when a random stranger lets us board the metro before him. We feel it when a random woman is carrying 6 bags, still managing to hold her daughter’s hand while crossing the road. We see it when a cow licks off the dirt of another cow. We feel it when an infant smiles at us for no reason. We feel it when a middle-aged uncle returns your phone which you forgot at the restaurant. 
Sometimes the goodness is strong enough to come and knock your door directly. But other times you have to keep an open mind and look for it around you. Trust me, it’s there. Not necessarily in people, not necessarily in nature, not necessarily even on earth, but it’s there. Let’s try to feel it, let it pass the layers of pains and miseries. Into the soul it will go and it will give you a purpose, a purpose to live, to be someone else’s goodness. 

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This story made me smile!

Well. So much negativity asserts itself in our surroundings, and makes its presence very obvious in our lives.  Our brains have become so accustomed to immediately thinking of a negative situation, that most of the times we become blind to even the possibility of something good happening. 

We need a certain amount of negativity in our lives to balance with the positivity. But imagine how the balance will fall, if we don’t see the good; if we don’t be the good. It will inevitably pave a way into pessimism. 

A lot of things change when we try to change our perspectives; when we try to look beyond the squares and shapes we’ve cut out for ourselves to use for viewing the world. If beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, then certainly, happiness must also be found by someone who looks at the world with optimism. 

So, look for it; if you cannot find goodness around, find it within yourself. Foster it, then reflect it onto the universe, so that it finds its way back to you.

I’m sure it will.

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Any opinions, comments or ideas that you may want to put forward to the writer of this story can be mailed to me at ratti.priya5@gmail.com. Positive feedback and constructive criticism are more than welcome. 

(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns.)

Story #28: A Lone Boulevard (The Anonymous Anecdotes Project)

Over the two decades I’ve managed to survive on this planet, the most important thing that I’ve realised is that life in fact, is a lone boulevard. You can try and make people stay with you all you want, but that is not going to happen. 

No matter how much you do for them, no matter how much you care for them or love them and no matter how many times you tell them how much they mean to you, they will eventually leave. Because that is the way life works and there is nothing you can do about it. People come and go according to ever changing circumstances, you can’t blame anyone about it. 

“Forever” is the biggest lie, we all promise each other, when none of us know how long that exactly is. 

Sometimes, these things really get to you. It doesn’t matter if it was a friendship or a relationship, when it ends, your heart breaks a little. But you need to realise that you cannot bind someone to stay with you. 

At the end, it depends on you, how you take it. You can be upset about it, you can overthink and blame yourself, but that isn’t going to achieve anything. You’re only going to end up hurting yourself.

The best solution is to have no expectations and becoming more independent. Whatever you do for someone, do not do it to oblige them or expect something in return for it. Become the right kind of selfless, but not to the point where people take advantage of you.

We all need to be comfortable in our own skin and appreciate the beauty of solitude, find happiness in being in your own company. The only person who will stick with you through everything is YOU.

Remember the energy you give out in the universe, eventually does find a way back to you.

Your entire life is a book, and the people you meet are merely chapters. Eventually, every chapter has to get over, only then the story can move forward.


I have, by now come across more than one stories that touch upon the subject of finding comfort in your company. It makes me so happy because I believe in it too much, and finding people whose stories actually propagate this view is amazing!

The writer couldn’t be more straightforward in her words. Yes, forever is an illusion that we entertain ourselves with, sometimes. Well, even if you think forever exists, you should be able to be with yourself and know that that is okay. As I have said before, there comes a time in our lives when nothing can pick us up from a downfall but ourselves.

So learn to love yourself, the most. Learn to let go. Remember that life is an echo: you get back what you give. Be positive and happy, and make others around you feel good about themselves. The universe will send the positive vibes back to you, all in good time.

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(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns. If you’re interested, you can send me your story at ratti.priya5@gmail.com.)

 

 

Story #10: Love and Peace (The Anonymous Anecdotes Project)

Today, we live in a world where negativity has seeped in our lives to such an extent that it has become inseparable. Hatred, jealousy, anxiety, depression, mental illness and what not. The root cause of these problems is the judgement people make publicly, so easily without even sparing a thought of the person who is being mocked upon. The impact of the smallest incidents in a person’s life are so detrimental that it sticks to them piling on their insecurities no one even has a hint of. 

Currently, survival is already a battle we all are fighting so why not make these battles easier for each other? Why not try and help people in fighting and making them stronger if you think you can? Each and every one of our generation (and probably our elder generations too who are unaware of even such terms) are stuck in a lost world of aimless journeys that they have headed towards. Why not just grant people with endless support?

Forgive the ones that hurt you and let yourself be free. Understand their perspective and let it all go. Learn to accept the apology you never received in the first place. Be a greater human. The world needs peace. More than anything, the world needs love. Love in different forms. Love in forms that are unimaginable. Love that touches everyone’s soul. Love to a level that there prevails no level. 

P.S – I really love this human for starting this project and letting people vent out their emotions. We need such positivity. Thank you. Lots of love.


This view of the world is so positive and pure that my heart melts a little every time I read it. These words reflect so much goodness and positivity. 

We need to live by these words. To promote love, and conquer hatred by love. To promote a feeling of togetherness among one another. Virtues like empathy, forgiveness, and love are so rare to find in people these days that when we come across someone who upholds them, it almost feels like a facade. I see women in the metro staring at girls who’ve made bold clothing choices and it honestly makes me feel so bad. I know our society is averse to changes, but we all need to learn to accept each other. In a world that is marred by so much hatred and terrorism, how do we find peace? 

Let us listen: beyond words and faked smiles; 
Let us understand: beyond our mental blocks and rigid opinions, and
Let us love: relentlessly, beyond socially constructed boundaries.

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(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns. If you’re interested, you can send me your story at ratti.priya5@gmail.com.)