Story #37: Past, Present, Future? (The Anonymous Anecdotes Project)

Past, present, future; the three things that define our lives.
Do they really?

People often ask me about me past experience. What all did I do in school? Was I a good student? What all hobbies I had?

If not my past, they are way too interested in my future. What do you plan to do after two years? What do you want to become? What’s your ultimate goal in life?

Each time, I feel, hang on, please. Let’s discuss our present lives. Let’s talk about where we are right now, at this moment. 

Our generation has just forgotten the meaning of living in the present. Either we are too sad about the past, or too scared about the future. 

This has led us to not value things in our lives, more importantly, the people in our lives. Nothing is permanent; that’s the biggest truth of life. 

The people you love, live with them in the present. Do not think about the past or what’s going to happen in the future.

You must be thinking, it’s not easy to have such a perspective about life. But trust me, it’s the best way. 

I had my experience which taught me this. I don’t want to talk about it much, because it’s gone, it’s in the past. 

I was about ten; very young to understand emotions and people, obviously. I had a brother; lost him when he was not even three months old. The most precious one in my life. At that point, I didn’t even realise what had happened. 

My family made me strong. So now, I realise that indeed, nothing is permanent. You never know what’s going to happen. 

So just love the people you really want to. Enjoy the moments now. Because really, life is just about the present; no past, no future. 


I’ve always seen the present as this, nothingness. The present, to me, is just a fleeting moment; always moving away from us just when we’re reaching to grab it.

But the fact that nothing is permanent forces one into action. Knowing that all we have is right now, even if it’s just a fleeting moment, makes you seize the moment. 

Appreciate what you have right now, because things will not be the same forever. 

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Any opinions, comments or ideas that you may want to put forward to the writer of this story can be mailed to me at ratti.priya5@gmail.com. Positive feedback and constructive criticism are more than welcome. 

(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns.)

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Story #25: You Are Not Alone (The Anonymous Anecdotes Project)

You are not alone.

This is a place filled with numerous characters and you are one of them. If it’s hurting today then may be it’s a day’s requirement so that you can come across that role. There are people who know that you are a great actor but still they try to make it difficult so that you can come up with a whole new way to save your soul.

Just realize that you are not alone; someone is there who cares but does not show it in front of you so that you can act mature. Someone who loves you but is afraid to lose you. Someone who looks up to you as you have achieved what they wanted to. That someone is always there whose life will be affected by you its just you have to realize that you are not alone; that thinking of loneliness, anxiety and pressure which leads to depression is just a matter of time if you start appreciating the life and make it worth living than all you have is living life king size.

The road may be difficult and you may require some chances to conquer but it doesn’t matter if you know that it will lead you to a successful life and if those disheartened moments will sooner be read as some stories of disguise. You have your parents, family and friends who will always guide you when you require; don’t take it as a burden, just listen and take what you require. Start working and start socialising.

That work will make you worth living and socializing will lead you to a better home & living environment around you. If you are afraid of love and togetherness then there is animals you can adopt and live with. Nature, gods biggest gift to mankind, those hilly areas, rivers, those places which bring so much calm to the heart, go out and fall in love with them.

Just try to do what your heart wants because there is always something which will love you back if you take a first step .
So you are not alone if you don’t want to or force yourself to.


“…There is always something which will love you back if you take the first step.” I had goosebumps while reading this line!

I think this post, these exact words are what we need today. Each one of us teenagers who’re somewhere or the other lost because of a setback. We have our own notions of love, and our unique pain when we suffer from a loss, or a heartbreak. But how do we deal with what comes after? We realise that we are not alone.

We learn to fall in love again; with something or the other, and sometimes, even with ourselves. This post is a story, a learning and an after note in itself. So I will just reinforce the things that have impacted me the most: Always have faith; believe that someone has your back, every step of the way. Fall in love. You are not alone. 

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(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns. If you’re interested, you can send me your story at ratti.priya5@gmail.com.)

Story #14: Lies, Drugs & Emotional Breakdowns (The Anonymous Anecdotes Project)

Honestly, somehow I always tend to tell people more about my exploits more than I write about things that actually matter. Because I have a problem with wanting people to like me. I used to be a compulsive liar. I actually lied about anything and everything one could lie about. After I entered my college hostel I made up stories so that people would think I was interesting. Obviously I ended up being friends with the most pretentious people of them all.

In the next months that followed and I ended up leaving the hostel and living in a flat with my seniors. There, i learned two things:
1) no one cares if you lie to them or not;
2) even if someone actually does care about it, they won’t stay long if you do.

A month after that I ended up with no friends and used to get high or drunk out of boredom. Soon it became an escape. I decided to go for counselling but couldn’t tell my parents about it and hence, couldn’t afford it. During this time I fell for someone and she was exactly like me with all the lies and the attention seeking. When it ended, the whole fiasco of drugs and lies and what not, I experienced two months of emotional meltdowns. I remember one day I started crying because I wanted to have ice cream but I didn’t want to go out of my house. I won’t say I don’t lie anymore. I do, but I try not to hurt anyone by doing so. And honestly, I am very proud how far I have come.


Our life is a journey through the course of which we encounter many things that appear to us as permanent, when in fact they aren’t. Our sorrows, problems and happiness too- everything is transient. We experience, learn and grow, ultimately to realise that we’re all on journeys with unknown destinations. We all get lost along the way. Sometimes, we want to stop, maybe take a break too. 

But the journey remains. Life goes on. Inspite of the circumstance, inspite of how we feel.  So why don’t we take control of our situation, have our negative experiences contribute to our growth?

Because life goes on, and I hope yours is going well. 

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(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns. If you’re interested, you can send me your story at ratti.priya5@gmail.com.)