I was in class 9 and preparing for my finals when I lost the person I was most attached to: my Dadu (paternal grandfather). This was an experience that had the most profound impact on me.
I had never experienced the sorrow of losing someone ever. I was devastated. I still get goosebumps writing about it. At first, I was heartbroken, but then I wanted to accomplish all the good things my dadu wanted me to accomplish.
I used to be quite a healthy child and he constantly asked me to lose weight, even though I didn’t really pay attention towards it. But when he left, I got a jerk and went on from being 84 to 60. I did it for him and wished so much that he was there to see it.
I studied with all my will, scored well and kept on motivating myself as if he was there to see me. I wish I could tell him how much I miss him; I just keep on working hard for him.
This experience took away a part of me, but then made me a stronger person in life!
For the most of us, losing someone we love is an experience that brings inevitable pain. More so, when that someone is family.
But sometimes, the things that give us pain somehow end up becoming the sources of our strengths. Pain changes us in different ways: it weakens some to terrible inaction, while it pushes others to take the chances they otherwise couldn’t.
Use your pain to be a better person. Exploit it, make it your strength. Look back at the point in your life when you were inches far from giving up, at the lowest of you lows; realise that if you could get through that, then you can get through anything.
Befriend your demons, they fuel your strengths.
(The Anonymous Anecdotes is a project under which anyone can send me a memory, a story or an experience from their life that had a profound impact on them. It requires people to write their respective experience along with the way it changed them or their perception of life. According to the project, these stories are being published anonymously, with the intent of spreading a positive message and a hope that anyone who reads, relates or learns. If you’re interested, you can send me your story at firstname.lastname@example.org.)